The fourteen frameworks
Every chapter of Fix Your Thinking, Fix Your Life ends with one framework you can tape to your mirror. Here are all fourteen in a sentence each, in the book's order, with the full essay wherever it's published.
Part I The Code Gets Written Early
The Stories You're Telling Yourself
The voice in your head isn't truth. It's programming... written by a kid, still running on the adult. You can't rewrite code you've never read.
Essay coming. Chapter 1 is in the book now.
The Trap You Built Without Knowing It
Every "fine" tightens the trap. "Fine" is not a yes. It's a slow no to your own life.
Essay coming. Chapter 2 is in the book now.
The Complaint You're Married To
The grievance that pays you in righteousness and charges you everything else. Divorce it.
Essay coming. Chapter 3 is in the book now.
Part II Strip the Code
Facts vs. Fiction
What happened and what you made it mean are two different things. You wrote the meaning. You can rewrite it.
Essay coming. Chapter 4 is in the book now.
You Decided Before They Spoke
You decided what they meant before they spoke. Catch it red-handed: "What I heard was ___. Is that what you said?"
Essay coming. Chapter 5 is in the book now.
Is It Working?
Not "could it work someday." Right now, in reality. If the math doesn't math, it's not working.
Essay coming. Chapter 6 is in the book now.
Being In My Life Is a Privilege
Access to you gets earned... even by family. Especially by family. Change the locks.
Essay coming. Chapter 7 is in the book now.
The Armor That Became a Cage
What protected you then is imprisoning you now. The door has always been unlocked from the inside.
Essay coming. Chapter 8 is in the book now.
Part III Rewrite the Code
Stop Surviving, Play to Win
Survival mode has a ceiling. Stop asking "how do I not lose?" Start asking "how do I win?"
Essay coming. Chapter 9 is in the book now.
Let Them In
Community doesn't find you... you build it. Needing people isn't weakness. It might be your superpower.
Essay coming. Chapter 10 is in the book now.
Fuck Yes or Fuck No
Commitments require fuck yes. Adventures only require why not. Know which question you're asking.
Essay coming. Chapter 11 is in the book now.
Love Has Levels
You might be settling for a 4 because nobody ever showed you a 10. Take the armor off and find out.
Essay coming. Chapter 12 is in the book now.
Part IV The Proof
The Climb
No big leaps. Rungs. Every job, every risk, every ask is a parlay to the next one.
Essay coming. Chapter 13 is in the book now.
The Cycle Breaking
You don't have to pass down everything you were handed. Keep the gold. Refuse the rest. What you refuse to pass on ends with you.
Essay coming. Chapter 14 is in the book now.